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He uses his fingers but he gets bored or tired and then he stops.
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He just more or less arbitrarily stops in the middle?
I'm at a loss for words if that is what he does. It's hard to fathom, as with his seeming indifference to your orgasm, especially from someone who is so caring outside of bed.
Perhaps in his presumed inexperience he does not appreciate what it is like to be stopped in the middle?
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I'll try to stay calm and patient and I'll try to talk to him next time.
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When you say "next time", are you meaning that you might speak to him shortly after having had sex? I ask because this might be a conversation to have outside of the bedroom, away from the vulnerability and emotions of the moment.
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He told me he loves me, so he must be willing to make the experience better for me too?
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I think that a lot might depend on why he is so disconnected during sex. Perhaps (due to his background) he does not truly accept sex before marriage? Or he does not accept acting on a woman's desires in bed? Or he has had negative experiences in connection with sex?
If you don't see sufficient improvement, how willing might he be to see a sex therapist?