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Originally Posted by MrGuermo
Ye, I can relate to these things about childhood. A child should feel safe and protected in a presence of a parent. When I was a child I was scared of my own father, because he was drunk and abusive to my mother very often. The good thing was, he rarely was visiting the home, because he was working very far from the home. Of course he betrayed my mother not once. He has kids with other women.
Regarding to your issue, dont listen what other ppl say, because they dont know the whole story.
If you consider your father as a toxic person you should probably cut off a contact. But if you think he has some good qualities, intentions, but being moody sometimes maybe you can give him another chance.
Also try to think of what you can lack because of his bad partenting skills, and try to give it for yourself. For example support, love etc. I know it might sounds a bit weird, but try to be the best parent for yourself.
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Yeah i try to do all that:/ it just seems like idk he sees me as my mom and idk i remind him of a failed marriage... so he takes care of his gfs kids and puts her before me. Thats why i left. Iw ss tired of my father putting a woman over me. Buying her kids things for the holidays and stuff and telling me he has no money... telling me to ask my mom for school stuff... etc... it’s damaging.. im sure those kids are living a good life because both parents/ adult figures are in one household.. i didnt have that.. and while thats not my fault.. he made it sound like i couldnt have nice things because my mom made him bitter. Instead of owning up and getting an education, getting a better job, etc he stayed in his dark cloud and made my life hell... then when i finally had enough he basically said “ well leave just like she did”......
And now its like... idk.. i dont want to be around someone who looks at me like that... who says “ accept this situation or leave me alone” ( which he did say to me btw)