Hello. I am on a two year journey, realizing my mom is a narcissist. She enmeshed me so tightly growing up and well into adulthood, that I only began to see her abusive ways over the last two years. My confrontation only angered and exaggerated her behavior and after a year and a half of being on and off of her “adult time outs” to make me her little do girl again, I’ve been discarded. Probably a good thing, but I’m now dealing with the reality that I don’t have a person of myself. I was stripped of it for her. I liked it, she gave me purpose and if I could withstand the lack of concern for me, i could at least get praised for being the perfect daughter. I even stopped speaking to my own father to “honor” her and the facts are coming out and contradicting all that she had convinced me of about him. He’s passed away now, so that is gone. I am hoping to get some help and direction of how to rebuild or how to process the pain.