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Originally Posted by pandabear0927
Yeah i try to do all that:/ it just seems like idk he sees me as my mom and idk i remind him of a failed marriage... so he takes care of his gfs kids and puts her before me. Thats why i left. Iw ss tired of my father putting a woman over me. Buying her kids things for the holidays and stuff and telling me he has no money... telling me to ask my mom for school stuff... etc... it’s damaging.. im sure those kids are living a good life because both parents/ adult figures are in one household.. i didnt have that.. and while thats not my fault.. he made it sound like i couldnt have nice things because my mom made him bitter. Instead of owning up and getting an education, getting a better job, etc he stayed in his dark cloud and made my life hell... then when i finally had enough he basically said “ well leave just like she did”......
And now its like... idk.. i dont want to be around someone who looks at me like that... who says “ accept this situation or leave me alone” ( which he did say to me btw)
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Well, I dont think you can't change him or his attitude. Lets focus on things that you can change.
I think the problem is that you expect/wants something from him, and he doesnt seem to be the person who care enough about you to give you something. You still want him to be a good father that helps you. But apparently he focus more on the "second family" now and nothing you can do about it.
I would advise you to drop this all about him, still you can be in a contact, but drop the all expectations of him as a father. You will feel free from this all.
Instead of him, try to focus on other support. Glad that you have a caring grandma +you are strong and supportive for yourself.