@openeyes I think that you hit the nail on the head unfortunately... She works but it is as a nurse to her son so she is mostly home in rotation with the other nurse. I even spoke to her today and she reiterated her being tired of trying to work on us and doesn't want to. She said that all the things that I'm doing now are things that I should have always done but I'm choosing to now because she's already gone.

She often talks about how much she is loving her freedom right now etc. I think it's time for me to come to the realization that it might be over. I think it's over wayyyy to soon but because of the personal circumstance I think our marriage just isn't what she wants.