For me, it's helped a lot to have H there, especially at times when I just couldn't. He doesn't understand bipolar much at all, not mental illness really, but he is still there to hep raise our daughter. I wish we had a wider support network, though I know in emergencies, I can count on both my sisters and my mother. My youngest sister seems to have made it a vision to call me on her way walking to school to get my nieces and on the way home. Alone, IDK. It's hard because H doesn't want to talk about mental illness and he's the fun parent so by default talking about mental illness is not something my daughter wants to here although there are rare times to will listen to me , for which I'm grateful. I think parenting is hard enough with 2 parents who do not have mental illness or another chronic issue.