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Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky
Yes, I COMPLETELY agree with the WISE and WONDERFUL MrGuermo!   I am SO SORRY your Father is being emotionally distant from you and that he wasn't able to support you and give you the Love you NEEDED and DESERVED!  My advice would be to either have a SERIOUS DISCUSSION with him about ALL OF THIS and see if he's willing to work with you on rebuilding a meaningful relationship or to just let him go his own way and cut off contacts with him if he's triggering you. I know it's hard when our own parents, the people that should Love us THE MOST and UNCONDITIONALLY , disappoint us. Unfortunately it can happen sometimes. Stay kind to yourself. You're not a bad person AT ALL! You're just standing up for yourself and taking care of yourself. So please hang on to that because IT IS TRUE AND YOU KNOW IT, OK?  I am REALLY HAPPY your grandmother is proving supportive to you at least! Support yourself as well, like MrGuermo has already WISELY and WONDERFULLY said BETTER THAN I EVER COULD! :   Please be kind to yourself and keep writing here if it helps. I'm always available when you need him. I'll try to get back at you as soon as I possibly can. I am sure many others will also help you. Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you and your father, your grandmother, wish I am SO GLAD and REALLY HAPPY that she is there to support you and your Family, @ pandabear0927, and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking!  |
Thank you for your kind words! I appreciate it a lot! My grandmother is def in the tough spot because me and her are so close, but it’s also her son. There are times that she tries to push me to talk to him but most of the time she understands and leaves it alone. I tried talking to him a couple times but it seems like i always got a negative response. He thinks he deserves his happiness at any cost and he simply doesn’t understand why i am not happy with his situation. He doesn’t see it as distrustful or inconsiderate , he just says im selfish and ungrateful... it’s like when a parent comes to the fork in the road of “ do i do what makes my child happy or what makes me happy?” And it almost feels as though he checked out as my parent, thought i was old enough to not be dependent on him as much so he went on doing what made him happy with little regard to how i felt or what I thought about the situation. Time going by is only making things more awkward... so i feel like i need to make a decision fast:/..