I’ve gone through this whole thread before saying anything. It’s unbelievable.
I can ID with the OP totally. In all fairness though my wife does have serious health issues and no libido at all. She won’t go to counseling. And she just expects me to please myself. Well I don’t want to. I’m sick off jerking off. Plus I’m too old for that. I want physical connection. Someone said what I have always been thinking. Why can’t she just please me and get it over with ? It would take about 5 minutes. But she she won’t even touch me ! Like was said. She feels that it’s time for outgrow the need for sex . But it’s not just that. There’s no intimacy. She says she gets no pleasure out of sex no matter what I do. Like the OP said, she won’t even talk about it. Gets very defensive. At first I thought she might be having an affair but I don’t believe it. Who knows though, the trust has long been gone. This is our 3rd go around . She doesn’t seem to care if I go outside to get it. I’m sure there’s woman out there who would love the attention. There’s been a lot of good advice, but when you have someone who won’t budge an inch , well it’s just about impossible.