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Originally Posted by Lonelyinmyheart
LT from my limited perspective I think you're doing absolutely the right thing by looking for another T. It sounds like you and current T have hit a wall and the only reasonable solution is to have some time out - whether that turns out to be forever or just a short break. I find myself wondering if your T is burnt out and doesn't have anything more to give. That isn't your fault or responsibility though, and if it's the case he should be taking it to his supervisor and/or personal therapy. I agree you may be triggering each other and it can happen if the therapist isn't on the ball enough to realise what's happening (or is perhaps too exhausted to care). Well done for looking elsewhere - it takes so much courage to do that. I hope you find someone helpful.
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Thanks for the support. Unfortunately, he doesn't have a supervisor and doesn't do his own therapy...(and from what he told me when I asked, he only did his own therapy to meet the requirements for his PhD.) He meets with a consulting group like 6 times a year, and I know he asked something regarding me a year ago, but it seemed like he was just trying to get his own view on what happened at the time (the whole stone thing--not sure if you know that story) validated. Rather than trying to figure out what was going on with him to react so strongly/negatively to my holding a stone he gave me for comfort.
The T I'm meeting with Wednesday is relatively new to the field (he was a teacher before) and, according to the paperwork I filled out for him, is still under supervision. I know seeing someone new could be risky, but I do like the fact that he's under supervision. Incidentally, my ex-MC and ex-T didn't have supervision either. I know ex-MC had done a lot of his own therapy, but don't know if he was still in therapy at the time he was seeing me. And their practice would have clinical meetings where they could bring up client issues once a week, but I seriously doubt he ever brought me up.
I like the UK model where all T's still require supervision, even if they've been practicing 30 years. Though, I suppose a T could just choose not to share something with their supervisor...