Thanks open eyes, thanks Mickey Cheeky.

Somebody wrote this to me just yesterday.

"Your letter was truly interesting to read. I am amazed of physical loyalty you have towards your wife. I get that it could be hard at times to not have a partner who is willing to be sexually active but you somehow still want to be with her."

No, I don't want a divorce. We have so many good things going on. It would be like cutting off my nose to spite my face.

Instead I'm toying with a form of neurological conditioning. Kind of like Pavlov's dog. I grew up expecting my wife to take care of my sexual needs. My first wife was pretty good with sex, but there were other things lacking. And when I hooked up with my second wife, my current wife of 26 years, I found 99.9% happiness except for one little thing, no libido.

So I'm reprogramming my neuro circuitry to seek sexual satisfaction in other ways. It's a slow and laborious process, but I am making some headway. I realized early on that I couldn't do it alone. Or I should say, it is not the same when I do it alone. There is something extraordinary that comes with the human connection, so now I'm looking for ethical non-monogamy alternatives to supplement my self pleasure activities.

It's an interesting growth experience. Thanks again for the kind words. It's nice to know I'm not alone.