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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight
Thanks for the comments. Went well with K today, she was very validating. She even said, "What the h*ll?" when I shared something he said Tuesday--the thing about, "I'm just one of millions of people in the world--why does my opinion matter so much to you?" After the WTH, K said, "Because he's your therapist." She seems to think I need to leave, thinks maybe I've outgrown him. She was really bothered by some of what he said in his email reply to me a couple Fridays ago when I was in a bad place. And by some other stuff he's said/done. And I'd mentioned liking hearing "take care" at the end, and she said that to me. She was mystified by his occasional "Enjoy!" as his parting words. She said she's open to working with me longer-term if I want or to be a bridge between T and who I do end up working with. That I could take my time deciding, and she was fine either way. Much different from T's recent "Leave or don't leave."
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Not to burst your bubble, but I see red flags. She’s interfering in an existing therapy relationship. She’s talking to you more like a friend (or a poster on PC!) than a professional.
I mean, Info said not a negative word about No. 3 for months (actually over a year). Nor a positive one, either, but her neutrality while being supportive turned out to be enormously helpful, because her not just backing me up helped me see more clearly and reflect on where things went wrong between me and 3 and my role in them—which meant I could grow and start to move on.
That’s not the only approach, of course, and you might find a different one beneficial. Good luck.