I don't know, LT. I guess my overall impression is that you've come up across some boundaries with T and he is being firm with them, and you're reacting to that. T has always been on "your side". He hasn't always said or done things you have particularly wanted him to have said or done, but he has more than met you in the middle on most things. I see far more value in working through these things with T who absolutely does care for you, rather than avoiding the conflict and beginning to see someone who agrees with your viewpoint more. I don't see how there can be personal growth or learning from that option.
You have a solid relationship with T. It isn't a "blow in the wind" thing. He has almost consistently been there for you when you have needed him. Far, far more than most other therapists would be. Conflicts happen in all relationships. Intense conflicts happen in all relationships. He absolutely does care for you, even though he makes mistakes some times. Not that my opinion matters, but I think you would be making a dreadful mistake in leaving him, and are making one even in triangulating the relationship by consulting another one.