I understand your conflict. I have 3 kidneys. you are only supposed to have 2. in the past people have "suggested" that I donate my extra one...to people I don't know, people I know, all kinds of situations. it puts stress on you. truth is they aren't all healthy. honestly, the 3 don't work all that well..but people don't understand that..they think you have an extra so offer it up.

I can't without placing my life at risk. and again I am not going too. I have received many poor and nasty comments about this. but it is the right decision.

you need to make the right call for you. not for what everyone else says or thinks. it is your life, your health. you are doing care for her and that is awesome. many would not even do that.