For me it is more like 'adult children dealing with mom' at times----a few months ago i got into a slump and i do not remember what i said but i got a call from my 34yo son, after he spoke with his 33yo sister, my daughter, and he told me
You need to get out and socialize
Come here if you need to, you are always welcome
I love you, we love you, you have done very loving things but your moods are difficult to deal with at times...think about how it affects us...
As I began to crumble with shame he scolded "No no, don't go there."