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Default Sep 08, 2019 at 11:10 AM
 
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Originally Posted by WishfulThinker66 View Post
As with any goal you need to set the bar at those things that are actually doable and build upon them. Tasks must be realistic. They must also be measurable with some kind of reward each step on the way.

For example, maybe you might start with something simple you can easily remove yourself from should it be difficult. I speak of things like a visit to a library or a quick stop at a gallery. Basically I would start with a situation you can control that does not yet require social interaction. It ought to be something that simply gets you in the vicinity of people. Maybe then take yourself to a place like a mall where you can sit and observe people and their interactions with others. Work your way up to a situation where you directly communicate with someone. This could be as simple as a worker on a sales floor. And continue from there. Remember though to keep these situations ones you can escape from if necessary (you can always back your way out of that gallery or store for instance). Finally, place yourself in a social setting. Rewards? Maybe a fancy coffee. Perhaps a book from that library. Treat yourself then to something that is different.

Evaluate each step of the way. How will this help me to achieve my goal? Has performing it drawn me nearer? What was successful? What can I work on and change?
Thanks Wishful Thinker. I appreciate your thoughtful reply and the information you have me. I have no problem whatsoever doing social things I can control and come and go as I please. Trip to the library? I'm there. I also find w some things, my anxiety is great, but once I'm there, I'm fine. Its just getting there that's extremely hard.

I think my issue is new social things, mainly. For instance, I'm signed up to take a poetry class in October. But I think this might be really hard for me maybe.

I also think its complicated within me. There are many factors.

I like the idea of a hierarchy though, incrementally, with rewards. I will definitely be talking in therapy about this.
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