It seems like your mother may be lonely. Is she? Does she have anyone at home? I guess not since you've said your dad is dead. Do you think your dad's death may have had a bad effect on her that is still going on to this day? Do you think she may still be coping Your Father's Passing and that she may still be Grieving Her/Your Loss? That's just something worth thinking about for a bit in my opinion! If she's started to act this way since your Father's passing then it may be due to loneliness or perhaps she's still Grieving Her/Your Loss, but I am NOT a professional in any way, shape or form so I really can't tell for sure, so DEFINITELY pick my words with a grain of salt! I am SO SORRY she's been abusive towards you, and still is! It seems like she's mostly using you as an opportunity to boost her self-confidence even if it comes at the cost of bringing you down. It's clear that she's struggling a lot, but it's not your responsability to take care of her. My advice would be to suggest her to see a Therapist or a professional who deals with Mental Health and see if she can get help for what she's struggling with. That's all you can do as her daughter in my opinion. You can't really "fix" her, nor you have to in my opinion. If she refuses to get help, then that's her choice. If she's being annoying to you and keeps calling you to talk about herself then my suggestion would be to just cut off contacts with her. Do not answer her phone calls or her messages. Thereìs no need for toxic people in our Lives! Don't feel guilty about this. You're not doing anything wrong and, like I've said, she can always get help if she wants to improve the relationship between you two. But it's up to her to make the first step. So please, stand up for yourself and be kind to yourself. Do yourself a favor and talk to her about ALL of this and see how it goes from there. Hopefully she will understand! Feel free to PM me ANYTIME if you want to talk or if you need advice and support! I am SURE plenty of people will also GLADLY and WONDERFULLY help you out as well if you just ask! Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @Rainkat, your family, your friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking!