Hello, obsessivelyafraid, and welcome to Psych Central! I suggest you go to a regular talk therapist and start from there. Then that person could recommend what you could do, based on what you can handle at that time.

When you call for an appointment, you can ask what kind of treatment/techniques they use and see what's said. If that person can't help, then he/she can refer you to someone who can. Okay?

By the way, my personal belief is God wants the best for people. After getting to talk to a girl for awhile and seeing if she is interested in you, you can always ask at some point if you can kiss her and then go from there.