The pumpkin guy was a member of my extended family,who lived in our town and visited us.His wife was a very nice and compassionate woman.I liked her. In the beginning I never doubted this guy.When ever I corrected him casually in a normal conversation,things would happen.When he told me it's a peony,I corrected him that it was Camellia shrub and peonies are underground tubers.He said wow squash.......I told him.....no,that's Jacko lantern pumpkin.He said look daylily......I corrected him...no,that's Asiatic lily.Things like that.I never meant to contradict or put him down.I was just giving him the correct info.And he never showed anger ,so I took some time to figure out and put two and two together after many incidents like this.The plants were found dead the next day.You know the pumpkin story already.Phew....I know it is exhausting to deal these people.