Please, I request in your responses to this post to try to be kind to me and not agree with him that I'm doomed in therapy (even if that's what you think). I think there has to be a middle ground, with a T who is willing to express caring while also holding good boundaries. I've read about such T's on here, so it's not just a myth! I feel T and ex-MC are sort of polar opposites in that, and there's a huge middle ground in between.