I think finding a good therapist is in part at least knowing what you want out of therapy & what role you want your therapist to play. Your first session should be at least half about interviewing them, asking about their approach, their training, their experience with working with problems such as yours, and how many sessions they think you'll require. Some T's prefer short term focussed therapy on specific issues whereas others do long term psychotherapy and deal with your whole life. A big part of it's simply personality fit and style to. I really like my T and my pdoc becasue they both actively ask questions and respond to what I am saying. I'm less thrilled with my addictions Dr. because she keeps a perfectly straight face and barely talks at all. She can however be very direct and a little scary at times, if she feels you need to do something and aren't doing it.

I was lucky I found my current T from a friend's referral.

--splitimage