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I was very much into the thinking that I needed my education & my career to define who I was. Very untypical of a woman but given my background it makes total sense.
I had a successful computer design engineering career for 15 years. Then aerospace crashed, I had a breakdown before that....I knew my marriage was bad all those years but ignored just how bad it was when I could escape into my career.
No not exactly like your situation but the same in that I defined myself by my accomplishments not by who I really was & what values I really had. That depression state lasted 13 years & almost cost my my life several times.
Because my marriage was bad, I had to get out of the situation I was in to reassess myself & to really figure out who I was given the state I was now in. I didn't have a husband who was any good at emotional support & when needed to be responsible financially, he destroyed everything we had built up over the years.
You have the emotional support of your wife.....what your problem is, is that you still define who you are by the successes from the past......not who & what your life is NOW.
The REAL sign of being successful is BEING ABLE TO ADAPT to the NOW. Being flexible & able to change to make your life you have now as acceptable to you as the life you created in the past. It is called "making the best of the hand you have been dealt". There is nothing BAD about your life now, it is just different than it was in the past & learning to embrace it as being good just in a different way is what adapting to change is all about. Holding onto the past only makes depression worse. Looking for the good & making the best out of the present is what can bring happiness.
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Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this.
Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018
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