Well, it seems like you already know what to do, @BlueMerleGirl. I am REALLY HAPPY that you're going to see a Couple Counsellor soon! I do feel like even an individual Therapist may help him as well, but that's YOUR decision. Perhaps you may want to see one as well if you feel like you need it. I COMPLETELY agree with the WISE and WONDERFUL Open Eyes and ~Christina for the rest. Yes, having another child may not be the best idea right now. Perhaps wait a bit at least until you're BOTH REALLY, REALLY SURE ABOUT THAT DECISION! Please be kind to yourself and your Husband. Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH of you! Keep fighting and keep rocking!