Leaving your home may not have been the wisest thing for you to do, unless you were court-ordered to do so. (Pardon me, if I've missed something.) Never walk away from your child or your property without first consulting an attorney. That was your home. You had a right to be there.

Your wife's situation with her special needs child is a difficult one that can lead to unhappiness. She may be mis-assigning blame for her unhappiness to you. IDK. I'm just tossing that out as a possibility.

It often comes up in this forum that one spouse tells the other to leave, and the rejected spouse meekly acquiesces and packs a bag. I don't think that ever, ever helps save a marriage. It can also make it look like you have abandoned the marriage. That can affect your leverage in negotiating a divorce settlement. That's why a lawyer should be consulted right at the get-go, especially if you are not wanting to dissolve the marriage.

I'm a bit suspicious of a spouse who engineers a separation, when what they really want is a divorce. You have to ask yourself why she didn't just file for divorce. I can see some rationale for a "separation" when there is behavior like adultery, substance abuse, compulsive gambling, etc. I can see some rationale for it when both parties sincerely hope to try and reconcile their differences. If it's a case of one party simply deciding to throw the other party out, I suspect someone is about to get the shaft. To some extent, throwing one's spouse out is a bullying tactic. It pre-weakens the rejected spouse before the real battle for assets begins.

It's not uncommon in marriage for one or other of the partners to hit a rough spot in their own psychic well-being and jump to the conclusion that they could better their life by getting rid of the other partner. Lots of mature married couples can tell you they've weathered an interval like that. There are times when you just have to ride a thing out. If, after being told to "get out ," you humbly say, "Okay, just let me grab my hat and a few other things, and I'll go." - you are assuming the weakest posture. That's the worst way to gain your wife's respect and the surest way to set the stage for divorce. There are times when a "mandate" from one's partner should be ignored. At least, that is sometimes the advice of legal counsel.

What's done is done. If you haven't done so, call a lawyer now.

I'll bet anything that you being out of that house is not influencing your wife to think, "Gee, I think maybe I'll let him try and win me back." That's a fantasy. You're just getting smaller and more dispensable in her view. Forget the "charm offensive." It will get you nothing.