oy - yep, they sure are making you the third adult, just like you said. that is very impressive that you paid for the car to get fixed.

Someone finally told me that i didn't have to be the parent - that they are the parents, the adults, and they need to take care of themselves. to make matters worse, someone told me that i was *hindering* their growth by taking care of them... wait a minute, i still am taking care of mom.... *sigh*. THere's a term for that.... ummmm..... enabling. That i am enabling mom to be a child because i do everything for her and don't let her fall and figure out how to do things herself.

I don't know which is true... they may both be true (being responsible for others as good, and enabling). Just things to think about.

You are an angel - but also make sure to take care of your own wings so that when the time is right you can still fly away from there.