I don't have any insight into the porn after sex thing as, well, I don't do that. But I do enjoy porn in general so here's my take on the appeal.

In my life as it is now, I want sex more often than my wife (actually I want sex more than any hetero partner I've ever had). That's fine, it's her right to say no. But I'm still going to take care of myself (as it were) and sometimes I'll add porn for the heightened arousal. Seeing other attractive people having sex is very exciting and even more so when I can project myself vicariously into the scene. It takes the work out of fantasy the same way watching any movie saves you from having to make up your own stories. In this sense, porn is an enhancement to make masturbation more thrilling.

Another reason I like masturbation (with or without porn) is that it's quicker, easier, and it can be all about me. No worries about pleasing someone else, no trying not to come until she does, no dealing with brushing teeth or uncertainty about whether or not she'll be in the mood, nothing. It's over in five minutes if I want it to be, I know what I want in the moment, and the people on the screen are doing me the service of pretending they are having the sexual experience of their lives.

Now, I'm not going to lie, I also like that it's a way of fantasizing about other women without cheating. It takes care of that desire for others and I'm sorry but many (if not all) of us men see women every single day that we are attracted to and it's nice (if not absolutely essential) to have an outlet for that.

But there's one more point I need to make and I can't stress this enough, I would always prefer a sensual, passionate, low hassle encounter with my partner over going solo. But funny how women don't want to be slaves to our every sexual impulse and having the option of doing it myself allows me to live my relationship's sexual life on her terms. Having porn to keep that exciting is great and I love that my wife has no problem with this.

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