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Sep 13, 2019, 12:07 PM
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Member Since: Dec 2018
Location: New Jersey
Posts: 6,008
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Hey @astoldbyginger:
I am not sure what other people mean when they say marriage is hard work because I suspect that its subjective. For me, it meant changing and growing together and not apart or separately. I am an alcoholic in recovery and it was an adjustment for my husband to go from walking on egg shells and cleaning up my messes to letting me go to AA and working on myself completely. He knew logically that it was necessary but still would get irritated sometimes when I was heading out to a meeting and our kids all had homework to do. I remember sitting down with him once and telling him that if he wanted stability instead of chaos and liked the honest, accountable, new me then he had to let me do things that helped me get that way. I assured him that I wasnt neglecting him and even suggested he try al-anon. He started therapy. I am a completely different person in a good way and he grew with me. I think a lot of couples come to a cross roads in their relationships for a variety of reasons and change themselves without any thought or concern for how those changes affect the partner. Love means responding. Love is an action word.
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Originally Posted by astoldbyginger
I've only just now been able to sign in to the website since my last post. Apologies for the late responses.
Whoa that's great. I feel like I have so many questions I have no idea where to start, but, I guess my most burning question is, when people say that marriage is hard work, what would you say that entails? I've been thinking some more about this and questioning whether I'm emotionally equipped for it.
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