So just make certain and really clear that those little ones and littler older ones aren't in comparsion mood. I know what does that mean for us in our zone but we are finding out when it was shared u just built a wall cause just do it anyway. Ur married though u gotta. This 2 yr old needs to be discussed yea of course ur not married to ur mate no awareness to being married at all a situation is a situation....don't wanna be too open is all we're saying then.