Reading that made me feel sad. It's clear you and this T are at an impasse. I think it's really good you're looking at other options, but you know this T will see you again if you so choose.

I felt uncomfortable that he said you shouldn't talk about him with another T. Maybe that was coming from a place of concern for you, that you might get caught up in these dynamics and not deal with the underlying issues or something, but really it's up to you how you use the time with a T. When I was struggling with a T, the next one I consulted told me if I needed to work through my feelings about T with her, and/or go back to see the ex T at some point, that was okay. She wasn't a great fit for me, but I did appreciate her making clear it was okay to talk about my ex T.

It kind of reads as if this T has given all he can and you're just not connecting with each other. It's not your fault and to some extent not his, although he has said things that can be construed as hurtful, the alliance just isn't helping you at the moment. It seems your T knows this.

I'm sorry you're going through it.