When the Ex T 1 relationship went to he11 I saw ex T 2, Ex T 2 Did not like me talking about ex T 1. I felt ashamed for wanting to talk about it. Current T told me ex T 1 was always welcome in the room with us as a topic. After about 2 or 3 sessions I was done talking about it. That is what I hope for you. You seem to have a tendency to focus on the relationship and it sounds like a distraction.

You Ex Dr T didn't behave in a great way but I also wonder how much was that he refused to take away your shame for drinking, he refused to be there or "care" and that witholding seems to make you stress more. I know that having a caring T with good boundaries helps so much so I guess I hope you don't go for someone with poor boundaries like ex MC or push and push until it creates a huge problem. I don't think he is wrong in some of his assessment but he sounds super frustrated and annoyed. This does not create anything healthy for you.

He also sounds arrogant like he believes others can't help you. and he knows what you need. Meh I don't like when men think they know what someone needs, or anyone actually. I'm glad you spent time talking about other things, not to protect him but because you are deserving of the help you need. I hope you find someone who can help.