I'm impressed with how you answered the need to find your center away from Dr. T so firmly and resolutely, and how you were able to take control and have a voice. I have struggled in the quicksand of a similarish dilemma for months( since Mother's Day ), and still approach the situation like it is a tangled ball of yarn that needs to be given immense time. Even Dr. T's suspicion you planned to end it rather than have him give ideas about how to go on together was a quick reversal from his former position that you needed him more than anyone else in your life, and couldn't survive without him. I personally liked many facets of Dr. T for you- he seemed like a straight shooter, and a "guy's guy" with a sensitive streak, and that he was invested in your progress, truly. He stretched himself to meet you where you were, and unlike others I do not believe he grew resentful or tired of this, nor even that he thinks you are manipulative. I think he was quite worried about you and was leaving town that same day, and was torn and got defensive. Right there though, was an impasse bc he wasn't willing to strive for the self awareness to intervene. Ultimately that was his job, his office, his responsibility to set the boundaries where he could be functional. He seemed to give you feedback about the parameters , and you followed the guidelines given. I think in many ways he had squishier boundaries than ex MC for all the talk of having tougher ones. He did extra sessions whenever asked, and he put a lot of effort into email and he lowered his fee for you. I suspect his pride is wounded, or his ego(?), or even a nicer part like his feelings are hurt, that he tried hard in his fashion. I am sure he knows that to another T, his boundaries are going to seem as loose to them as ex MC's did to him. I hate that relationships can go sour as quickly as milk sometimes. I also think you could go back to Dr. T, and he would again work hard with you and mean it. My big issue with him is that he is entitled- he is just vested in being the authority figure, discusses a world view that is very conventional, and he isn't very sophisticated in his modality. I think if challenged by Team PC, his knowledge of anything psychodynamic or psychoanalytical would play in comparison. There is a good place for a steady caring rock solid person in the T world, and I do think Dr. T was that until now he sunk his own battleship by getting so, so defensive and untheraputic. The interesting thing is how YOU seem over it more than he does . Like you just realized he isn't going to take you where you need to go, no matter how hard he tries.?