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Old Sep 13, 2019, 08:41 PM
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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight View Post
Thanks for all the comments and support. I'll add more later, but just wanted to say I'm slightly torn as to how much to bring up to the new T regarding this one. I brought up a tiny bit (like 5 min of a 90-min intake session) Wednesday. But I don't want M to be concerned I'll have all these same issues with him. At the same time, I'd rather know earlier than later how he feels about the role of a T for a client. But I feel weird saying something like, "Are you willing to say to clients that you care about them?" But I talked to K about that yesterday, and she came right out and said she cares about me, though she knows she has no real control over what I do. And she would say that to any client. But (this is a record number of "buts" in a post, I think), it may also be different for a female T saying that to a heterosexual female client vs. a male T saying that to a female. Like less worry about it potentially being misconstrued. K did give me some good language to use in talking to M, like saying how transference tends to come up for me, but that I also understand that he has boundaries. She said the word "boundaries" suggests he doesn't need to be concerned.
For me, part of the purpose of therapy is to talk honestly about what's really on your mind and hash it out as much as you need to, in whatever terms work for you. Seems really strange to me that K would give you "good language" for the new guy. Is it really helpful to script this stuff in advance? Is it helpful to downplay something that's a big issue for you and bound to come up again anyway?
Thanks for this!
LonesomeTonight