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Originally Posted by NP_Complete
The original mail I sent in response to her email entitled Needs where she bullet-point listed all the reasons she needs to come visit me even though I've told her I can't do a visit, written by my therapist because I couldn't:
Her: Sounds reasonable but this would be new territory for us. This feels confrontational.
Her again, 6 hours later: Feels demanding to me.
Me, desperately trying to get out of this trap:
I'm sure my therapist would have a different interpretation of these emails from her.
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I would not read this as all that negative. It sounds to me like she is hurt and confused and wanting to know how to fix it. I think mothers think they are going to have a different/good relationship with their child regardless of the relationship they had with their mother (look at the mothers who post here). She is hurt and alone and NP is alone and upset. It isn't a good combination but I don't think the mother is being mean.
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