I think she needs to hear the reasons for part time from your Pdoc and T.

I never thought I’d be on SSDI at my age, and we certainly never expected my husband to unfortunately wind up on SSDI also. I’m only 52 and he’s 58.

Our “ plan” was a great one but life had another “plan for us”

I do think couples counseling would benefit you both as I think you both are building up a lot of resentment towards each other and if that can’t be figured out it could easily destroy your marriage.