I haven't read all the responses, but I saw some people saying you shouldn't talk about Dr T "too much". Also a distinction between Dr T stuff and "your issues". LT, what happened with Dr T IS your issues. You have repeating relational trauma with therapists and this is exactly something to be discussed in therapy for however long it takes. It was abundantly clear from the start that DrT didnt see the value in talking about MC and it doesnt surprise me his saying that now. In fact his discomfort with the discussion is probably part of why little progress has been made on this pattern, and his lack of awareness has played a role in its repetition. He has consistently shown that work on the relationship isn't his thing. So why would work on the previous relationship have any meaning or value to him. You have to remember the advice he gave you comes from a particular modality viewpoint that rejects the value of the therapeutic relationship in the work. He is overlaying your needs with a) his own opinion and b) very likely his own discomfort with being discussed by you. He doesnt get to control what you say in your new therapy. Dont let him influence it. When you are talking about your previous therapy, in my view, you are getting to the very heart of your issues, not neglecting them, because therapy, for many people is a microcosm of what goes on outside therapy. Examining the relational dynamics in therapy can be rich and healing work. Besides which, you are hurting right now and you need to go to therapy to talk about the things that are hurting. Dont put any restrictions on what you "should" be talking about. Trust yourself. You will talk less and less about DrT as time progresses because the talking will be healing (assuming this therapist doesn't behave like DrT did).

I just want to say, when I went to T, I talked about T1 pretty consistently for eighteen months. EIGHTEEN MONTHS. I rarely mention him now but I needed that processing time. It was very healing and I think saved me from repeating the same pattern again. Also, my T heard about the things that were difficult for me with T1 and made damn sure not to repeat them. He showed sensitivity and understanding, and that's why the outcome was different. This is why I have been saying for so long that DrT is not right for you. His style absolutely does not suit someone with repeating relational trauma. I really hope this new one provides sensitivity to your needs, explicit boundaries that don't randomly change for no reason, an understanding of attachment and as much space as you need to discuss DrT.