Well, I've done a fair amount of reading since I originally made this post and the short of it is that gender is not as cut and dried as our culture would have us believe. So I can accept that I'm an effeminate male as that's a perfectly acceptable version of male.

It sounds to me like you might be a little on the masculine side and so you identify with men but have adjusted your attitude to accommodate your heterosexual impulses.

But what do I know? I started this thread confused as hell as little as a month or so ago.

Cyran0