But (this is a record number of "buts" in a post, I think), it may also be different for a female T saying that to a heterosexual female client vs. a male T saying that to a female. Like less worry about it potentially being misconstrued. K did give me some good language to use in talking to M, like saying how transference tends to come up for me, but that I also understand that he has boundaries. She said the word "boundaries" suggests he doesn't need to be concerned.