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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight
Oh, I know there's a pattern, especially with ex-Dr.T. It's partly what led me to be like "OK, I can't keep doing this." I know I had a pattern with ex-MC, too, but it was a bit different in nature. The number of conflicts, ruptures, mini-ruptures, whatever you want to call them with ex-Dr.T seemed really high to me. Especially within 2019. I just don't feel like a therapeutic relationship should be that exhausting. yeah, I know part of it was me, but part of it was him, too.
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I think there’s still a broader general pattern that links the two. (I’m talking about your part, we can’t hypothesize anything about Dr. T’s part because we don’t have his history. Plus you can only control your part.)
When MC became like Dr. T, the final rupture happened.
When Dr. T refused to be like MC time and again, even when you begged him because you felt sh, the final rupture happened.
Given that most people, wherever they start on the range, will become Dr. T over time in response to having their boundaries pushed, and they may be nice about it or not, that’s the pattern I think should be kept in mind.
Sure, therapists can expect certain clients to push boundaries. That doesn’t mean they have to accept or tolerate it.