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Originally Posted by ElectricManatee
This is also a great reason to move on, though, isn't it? The client is supposed to unconsciously try to re-enact the past, and the therapist is supposed to know how to work with the patterns and not get sucked into it. Dr. T got sucked in, which, to be fair, is not surprising for a therapist who doesn't work with attachment issues and who took on a client who specifically wants to work on attachment issues. You can blame the client if you want to because she's the one who posts here, but I don't think she was getting what she needed from Dr. T to rework any of this.
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That's a good point, thanks. It's like he let me reenact the patterns, but then didn't have the insight to go along with it that could help move me forward and get out of the pattern. He just ended up playing into it, likely subconsciously. Then it felt like he was suddenly like, "I'm not playing into this anymore" (like starting with the standing thing), but it's not like we'd done work to get me to move past it. So of course his stopping it hurt.
He can say to me I need to not be looking for him for care (as he mentioned Monday), but if I've been doing that for 2 years...And there were times he said it's OK to feel a connection and to feel attached to him, even a bit dependent. Then suddenly he's going on about how he shouldn't be such an important person in my life (that was the session before the last one)...And Monday, that he's not who I should be getting caring from. It just felt like a sudden shift, without the work in between to prepare me for it. Yeah, I've gotten better at some coping stuff, expanding my social network, talking to H about stuff more, but still...and then for him to say I'm going to have the same issues with any other T...