how much of ex dr t caring was a projection and how much was real? I wonder sometimes as a lot seemed to be that he sounded caring or felt caring but not an actual thing that changed or that he did. Sometimes he would give in to what you wanted, was that caring? Sharing how he felt about you with you? Always seemed too much but it's not any different from the stone discussion really. If that method suddenly doesnt work the. it's time to move on, but from everything you described it doesnt sound like he changed.

It sounds like your tolerance of hin changed, maybe your willingness to participate in this cycle?