Susannah - re lemons dilemma. This seems to me similar to the issue with np and her moms insistence on a visit. And maybe world peace?

Sometimes people wont negotiate. Then what?

The best advice ive heard recently was, "act crazier than the crazy person youre dealing with", and that was from a youtube comedian, so not exactly stellar credentials there. Like not malcolm gladwell.

This is where my avoidant dismissive fearful flatulence type comes in handy!