There’s an old saying that you cant please all of the people all of the time. Today I had to insist that my h stop doing some things that are destroying both of us, mainly pushing all of his medical research questioningandplannngofffonme.He has some kind of ptsd fromhisparentsbothdying young,but too bad. He can get a counselorforthatorwhatever,but he is 73and he is goingtoputhisbigboy pants on andhelp me with all this or Iwillhave to do something drastic.(Sorryfor no spaces, my keyboard needs charging). His cognition is even starting to go so its nowor never. He has been mean and stubborn and gaslighting aboutthisforever.No more, I dont even have enough energy left to do thingsformyslelf.
You do not have to go on every one of those trips or you could return ahead of him.You two are not joined at the hip. Dont discuss this endlessly. Have a talk about it and do what you have to do to save yourself.