Hopefully we get to work out our stuff with our T's and here too if people are genuine and supporting us. Many of us have repeating patterns we need to get to. If someone can see this pattern , or patterns , and can gently bring it to our attention , although our natural reaction is probably to deny or get upset about it , we can then work on it. It's learning to take a moment to look at it and go " Oh , yeah , maybe... I will give you a personal example for myself ( hopefully it will help ) I can be a little obsessive about the way I think things SHOULD be , so , I know myself a little ( I hope! ) if this is pointed out to me , it's not so bad. I do hope you stay with us , and if people do gently point out your repeating patterns , it's from concern and trying to help , when maybe you sometimes see it as being unsupportive and get upset. We don't grow from agreement or validation all the time , when we get challenged a little on something , then we do.