Yeah, my t did like the same 5 extra things from beginning to end. Somewhere in the middle there were like 2 or 3 extra extra things, like i literally cried on his shoulder, but after i did it once, i didnt need it again, so it wasnt a matter of his taking it away. Like if he let me lean on his shoulder but then i didnt cry, then the next (not necessarily consecutive) time, i had probably processed whatever enough. It wasnt all about his shoulder. It was about what i was processing at the moment. And the "same 5 things" (opening hug, closing hug, etc) provided stability and unconditional positive regard.

Eta - altho i did have a standing request in for him to take me to his home for the weekend and carry me around in a Snugli as he cut the lawn, played tennis, etc.