Can a therapist lead a client to be overly dependent on them?
Cause that's what happened to me. I have mother transference of my therapist too. I find it hard to cope without her. She has reduce the phone calls to one phone call a week to stop the depencey. But its causing me a lot of distress. Meaning I find it hard to use the skills I learnt in therapy and applied it on myself. Most of the phone calls were vaildatation from my therapist and she told me it can become addictive getting vaildation especially if you don't have vaildating environment.
The phone calls wasnt slowly reduce it was like one week cut to one phone call. So it was huge shock for me and I find it hard to cope. So I usually depend on my partner which not fair on him cause that cause him stress too.
If say my therapist tells my partner to redcue the depencey on me. So he won't say feed the monster of my dependcey. I just have panic attacks! I find it hard to cope.
So I have no idea what's going on.
If anyone has any insight what's going on that be much appreciated.
I just would of thought I be able cope with the reduce phone call without a panic attack or rumainte on it.

I do experience traits of Borderline personality disorder
And I experience OCD.