I'm sure many here will disagree with me but unfortunately I do see a pattern on this site of therapists who allow the dependency to build from the beginning. IMO I do not think therapists should allow clients to start the level of outside contact that leads to the dependency, especially for those with BPD and attachment disorders who tend to want this kind of contact more than others.

You and so many others on this site end up suffering when the T tightens the boundaries and reduces outside contact. By teaching coping skills from the beginning and forcing the client to use them from the start I feel it would be so much easier and humane for the client. I also feel this would tend to speed up recovery time rather than leading clients down the road to dependency and dragging on the treatment.

I have empathy for all of those who suffer from this type of treatment by therapists who allow it. Once it starts, I can easily see how clients would not want to switch to another T with tighter boundaries who may be able to actually help them. In answering your question, yes therapists do lead clients down this path and I am sorry about that.