i am a wife who objects to the way the inlaws are a bad influence to my children mainly my son he is now 16 and hubby sees what im saying, we had many a argument over hubby going to there aid as soon as they ask, it wasnt untill reacantly hubby will say similer things to me maybe its coz my kids now see the things i saw, i never stopped my kids going

i also entertained them at xmas, ask your wife to write down why she thinks how it will effect your son if its coz he will see your parents more than hers, make sure you refer to her parents to him as well letting him send pictures and letters talking on the phone, even having web cam to talk to them

hope you sort out the diferances, i'm glad you want to help your parents but dont ruin your marriage other it