This is my impression as well. Unfortunately, I think some people are so desperate to be heard and seen that it becomes all-consuming when they finally are. I tend to cling to people I like more strongly when a) I have a smaller social circle b) the person is giving me something I've been starved of.

In the year I went to sessions, I spent more time thinking about therapy than I would have liked, but the focus was always on my issues more than on my therapist. I know I had some low-level attachment issues (I wanted approval and to know he occasionally thought of me outside sessions, but I didn't care that he had family relationships that meant more to him, saw other clients or went on holiday for weeks at a time), and I never felt able to address them. But I stayed in therapy because I knew I was making progress in other areas, and those areas were worthwhile.

There was a point where my therapist refused to hug me, and it left me feeling completely rejected and uncomfortable sharing things I needed to in order to progress. I realised that any further sessions would just become me sitting on a couch feeling unlovable. Therapy would become about my problems with therapy, and I didn't see the use in that.

So I left. Right decision.

But that might not have happened if I didn't have my wonderful husband, supportive best friend and job to fall back on. I could cut my therapist out because he was part of my life. If your therapist IS your life, it's harder to do.