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Old Sep 16, 2019, 04:37 AM
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Originally Posted by divine1966 View Post

It kind of saddens me to read on here how many people don’t go to therapy to improve their life or have a safe place to talk or what not but go to therapy because they are overly attached to their therapists up to the point that their entire life is in shambles or put on hold because they can’t function without relying on their therapists 24/7.
I go to therapy to have safe place to talk but in doing so I am overly attached that I do not function without relying on him.

How does someone go to therapy to improve their lives or have a safe place to talk that has a attachment disorder, cPTSD, BPD, dissociative disorder and NOT get attached to someone who for the first time hears and sees them, nurture them like the parent they never had? How do you stop the brain from doing that? If the therapist is strict, stern with tight boundaries healing does not occur.

Where is the fine line? I do not want to go back to where I was before therapy. I think I will take this painful attachment over the hell I was dealing with before.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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