Hi,

Disclaimer: I'm not a teenager and my mother isn't trying to look younger through me.
I'm 40y.o. and since I was 18 my mother copy cats me.
I once said - in my 19's- I liked hooded clothing, since then, she bought everything with a hood and until today she says "I really like hooded clothing".
I once said I liked stripes, the next day she was wearing a shirt with stripes. Everything I wear, dress, smell, make up, my jokes, my theories, things I like, jobs I have (now that I landed my dream job, she doesn't stop saying that when sh was younger, she was invited to work in the same job, but refused)...It doesn't stop!
She finds out what perfume I wear, she start saying "I like the (brand I use)" then buys the same or similar.
This went on and on for years.
But as I grew up, and since I moved out, she lost sight of me and developed her own style.
Recently we start seeing each other everyday and now I'm living with her again, so it went back to the same:
Hair color? The same. THE SAME! I told her she never ever had that color, and she says she did, always had, but for some reason it use to get darker on her hair, now, she can't tell why, it gets lighter. (I know why. Because she always bought dark redish browns, now she buys LIGHT brown! That's why it gets lighter just like mine!)
But she's not satisfied. I have highlights too, so yesterday, casually, she talked about how in the past (when??), she had a hairdresser that made great highlights on her hair (LIE! The only time she dyed her hair blonde, she hated it and hated the hairdresser who did it).
She saw me with a dress and white sneakers: "See? That's just how I like to dress!" (NO, she NEVER Wore anything like that even in her youth!!!), next day, casually, out of nowhere: "I want to buy white sneakers, but I don't know where to go...". SURE!
Now, just now, she asked me about my body lotion that I left in the bathroom, trusting she was not going to touch it!..."How much does this cost?"...."Why?", I asked annoyed knowing what was coming. "Because I tried a bit and I liked the smell" (REALLY??? You want to smell like me????) My lotion, my perfume, my clothes, my hair color, my job, my self, my life?

THIS IS SO ANNOYING!!
Please don't say it's a form of compliment, because this is a symptom of a psychological issue and for the copycatted it's a form of abuse, stealing our identity, trying to be US, invalidating our personality by making it a copy - SICK!!
I CAN'T COPE WITH THIS!

Thank you