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Old Sep 16, 2019, 12:06 PM
BudFox BudFox is offline
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I don't buy this idea that therapists can reliably calibrate their behavior to avoid provoking dependency. There are too many variables in a human relationship. Plus therapy is dependency-inducing by its nature. I think certain therapist behaviors can increase the likelihood of dependency or intensify it.

Usually it's said that dependency can be avoided if the therapist has "good boundaries", is aware, non-reactive, patient, non-judgemental, etc etc. In other words, if the therapist behaves according to some impossible ideal. And so people search and search for this perfect therapist, like searching for a soul mate. This kind of dynamic in real life would be labeled as unhealthy by therapists. Also, seems many therapists are in the profession because they have emotional problems, so doesn't seem prudent to search among this group for a savior who can lead you into some idealized dependency.
Thanks for this!
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